Women usually tend to stare at other women whether it is in a public or private setting. Why? I like to think and suggest the reason for that is because she is admiring your beauty, your skin, a certain feature on your face/body, your hair, overall she is admiring something, whether she admits it or not. Although, we can all admit that we dislike when another female is just staring at us and not saying anything can piss us off to high mountains, it also gives us a sense of happiness to know that they were staring at us for some reason even if it wasn't said, we know. But why do we get mad? Is it because it is just that simple to transform those thoughts into words and express that you appreciate, admire, acknowledge someone else's features. Why is it so difficult to give a compliment? It isn't. That is the real answer. We all admire someone else's beauty, their features, the way that they dress, their hair, their nails and there isn't anything wrong with that. The simple thought that if you give another woman a compliment it will boost her ego and make her some sort of conceited bitch is the wrong thought and that's why bitter people can always let you know that they are just that, bitter.
Women should be able to compliment one another without thinking it’s belittling them or making someone else’s head big. Compliments should roll off of your tongue to tell someone how beautiful they are. You know why? Because it says something about you and your character. It goes to show that you are someone who can appreciate someone else. You are someone who is able to acknowledge a characteristic or trait that someone else has and ultimately make people feel good about themselves. I promise, you complimenting someone else, especially a female, you will feel good about yourself and she may even say something that can raise your self esteem. We know this and say this all of the time, “You never know what someone else is going through”, and complimenting someone can put them in a different mind state. You can simply uplift someone by telling them they are beautiful, their skin is glowing, their hair looks amazing, you like their style, I can go on and on. Making someone feel better about themselves will make you feel better about yourself.
-- A quick thought: Have you ever walked to the store in your oversized sweat pants, a wrap in your head, a crop top or sweater, and have gotten told that you look beautiful, most likely by a man? And the entire time you’re thinking in your head or you may even express this to the man who is complimenting you, “I look crazy ,what are you talking about?” No you do not. People find beauty in other ways that you may not find beauty in. Never doubt your beauty. --
The way the world is today glorifying all of these plastic, oversized, silicone bodies we can forget for a second that our natural beauty is the best beauty and we should appreciate that whether we are dressed up or down. Don’t be insecure about your features and your body type but embrace it. Women go to extravagant lengths to change their bodies and sometimes they still end up unsatisfied with the results. It is important to acknowledge beauty.
I don’t think ALL of the women who have had their bodies done are some sort of ugly and I’m definitely not throwing any shade towards their decisions because their insecurities drowned them into thinking that they needed to get surgery and didn't give their selves other options to get the body they wanted, they decided to take the cheap and easy way out. Unfortunately, years to come, those changes they made to their bodies will take its toll and those foreign objects they have flowing through their bloodstream will catch up to them, as it did with K.Michelle and many others. --
My point is to take time to appreciate your body and your beauty. You should make yourself feel amazing without waiting for the reassurance of another person, especially a guy. Anyone, however, that does give you reassurance of your beauty and your body is adding to what you already know about yourself. They are adding to your confidence, the same confidence that you already built within yourself.
Some women rather have an attitude and stare you down instead of saying "Excuse me, you look beautiful today." The simple fact that you rather be envious and mean says more about you than you can say verbally. It literally takes one minute, 30 seconds, to compliment someone.
Our women of color really need to get into the habit of appreciating another woman's skin tone, her features, her style, anything to uplift one another. We spent so much time disliking and discouraging our sisters because of how the media and society has told us to treat one another. Instead we should have been admiring one another and showing an Infinite amount of love because in all reality that is what we need. Love. In any form we can possibly get it. Happiness is also making another person happy so do not ever think that you can’t do exactly that. Giving positive energy means that positive energy will be reciprocated right back to you. Compliment beauty when you see it, don't just stare, make someone's day.
We should all be able to admire some else's beauty without questioning our own. There will always be someone who looks better, who has a better body, whose hair is longer, who dresses better than you but that doesn't mean that you should dim your own light. The way you admire someone else there is someone who admires you the same way.
Be kind. Be genuine. Be real. Be the nicest you.
”Girls compete with each other. Women EMPOWER one another.”
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